While so many of us base our self-esteem and self-confidence on other’s approval, there are plenty of people who have decided it is time to live a life free of worry about what others think. How do you know that you have become a member of this illustrious group? Here are 5 signs that are no longer concerned with what other people think about you.
1. You do things because they make you feel good on the inside, not because you’ll look good on the outside.
You know that you no longer care about what other people think when you finally realize that living a meaningful, balanced, and peaceful life is far more important than looking perfect on the outside and have nothing to show for it inside.
2. You have no problem saying “no”.
In today’s world, people often say “yes” to things they have no desire to do simply because they want the approval and love of others. When you no longer care what others think, you no longer feel the need to betray your own feelings. Instead, you stay true to yourself and say “no” when you don’t want to do something. Best of all, you don’t feel the need to apologize for saying “no”.
“No is a complete sentence. It does not require justification or explanation.” -Unknown
3. Instead of trying to capture the moment on social media, you savor the moment.
When you are able to truly be in the present and enjoy what is going on in your life instead of constantly updating your status and posting photos, you know that you are done caring what other people think. You don’t feel the need to let the world know what you are doing or how much you enjoy it.
“How different would people act if they couldn’t show off on social media? Would they still do it?” – Donna Lynn Hope, author
4. What you think about yourself is far more important than what others think about you.
You feel that it’s more important to live your life for yourself and honor the person that you truly are than to live a life where everyone else (but you) has a high opinion of you.
“I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.” -Charlotte Brontë
5. You no longer factor in things that are outside of your control when determining your self worth.
You have finally realized that there your happiness, worth, and value are not dependent upon external things, such as how much stuff you have, how many people like and approve of you, how much money you have, or what kind of job you have. You understand that these things do not add any value to the person you are inside. After all, you were born perfect and whole and deep down, you still are.
“The greatest difficulty is that men do not thing enough of themselves, do not consider what it is that they are sacrificing when they follow in a herd, or when they cater for their establishment.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
By: Abra Gordon