Everyone has had bad relationships to go through. Or had to deal with selfish people in their lives. While this is common, the problem is on how you should go about dealing with this negative energy. Failed relationships or dealing with negative people will give negative energy that can have an impact on you and your life. If you let the negative energy get the better of you, it won’t be a long time before you would start facing new troubles in your life.
Everybody displays acts of selfishness in one form or the other. Some say that we need to be selfish in order to survive, after all, it is the survival of the fittest. However, do we really need to be selfish? Taking care of one’s own needs and taking away other’s needs from them has a difference. It is important to be selfless. However, if you have selfish people in your life and see them getting undue favors, you may wonder, wouldn’t it be better if you too were selfish?
Dealing with Selfish People
In life, you have to deal with all kinds of people. Some are good for you and help you grow; while some tend to pull you down and spread negative energy. Selfish people particularly pull a lot out of you. The general advice on such people seems to be to not give them space in your life, and leave them out of it. However, practically speaking, this is not possible to do if that person is a family member, say, or a colleague you need to work with everyday. But this does not mean you can do nothing. Here are four ways you can handle such people:
You need to accept the flaws of that particular person, and try to understand why they are behaving the way that they are. Is there a legitimate reason behind it? Are they going through a really bad phase? Understand that if they have always been like this you won’t be able to change them.
2. Put yourself first
When you feel that the person is taxing you too much, communicate with them and take a timeout. Your well being should be your priority. If you explain to them that you are not having the best day, they will probably understand.
3. Make sure of reciprocity
Understanding a selfish person is one thing, but letting yourself getting used by them is another. Make sure that the relationship isn’t just a one way street. Do they also have something invested in the relationship, or is it just you doing everything?
4. Protect your own energy
Visualization is a powerful tool. Imagine you have a cloak on when you are with this person, and none of their negative energy can get to you. Communicate with them and try to understand them, but not at the cost of your own mental peace.
We are sure you might have come across selfish people in your life. How did you deal with them? Do you feel that you are more confident now and have got rid of the negative energy? Let us know.