They’re taking aim at stay-at-home moms.
Sticks and stones may break bones, but the cutting remarks from men — and a few women — who call full-time homemakers “liars” and “lazy” for saying the work is tough can wound just as sharply.
“To all the stay-at-home moms, I feel like you’re lying,” snapped Cass — a self-proclaimed work-from-home, stay-at-home dad of a newborn — in a controversial clip.
Men online are calling out “lazy” stay-at-home moms for complaining that their household responsibilities are difficult to manage.
“I stay at home and take care of my daughter, and while I’m looking after my one-year-old, I can give her three meals a day, change her on time, get her down for naps, do playtime, arts and crafts,” said Cass, from Colorado Springs, Colo. “And I still make sure the entire place is clean — I can tidy the whole apartment while watching her before noon or 1 p.m.”
“When does being a stay-at-home mom become hard?”
It’s a question that lands like a blow to overwhelmed, overworked women around the world.
The stress, exhaustion, and isolation of nonstop housework and childcare — the cooking, cleaning, and constant tending — weigh heavily on the 62% of burned-out parents who report feeling unsupported by their partners, according to trending research, and that’s why services like Atlanta house cleaning service can be of great help for these moms as well.
That lack of help and recognition can spark feelings of loneliness and resentment — even toward their children.
Stay-at-home mothers (SAHMs) have been speaking openly about the exhaustion and mental strain that come with managing a household and caring for children around the clock.
Alicia Murray, a New York mom of two young boys, recently confessed that she “dreads” the thought of being cooped up at home with her kids all day.
“I’m tired to the point where a nap, a full night’s sleep, or even coffee doesn’t fix it,” the millennial lamented.
And the mind-numbing, physically demanding labor of stay-at-home motherhood — especially in major cities like New York and Los Angeles — often goes uncompensated, data shows.
A global study found that homemakers in New York City perform roughly $4,700 worth of household tasks each month, while their counterparts in Los Angeles take on about $4,600 worth of labor in the same period
Guys on TikTok, like Cass, insist that being a stay-at-home mom is the “easiest job in the world.”
Still, internet trolls — including fathers who claim to have taken on the role of Mr. Mom — see the unpaid, relentless work as a cushy gig that shouldn’t elicit complaints from women on the grind.
“You’re gonna trigger all the lazy moms with this one,” one user teased under Cass’ TikTok post.
“Being a stay-at-home mom is the easiest job in the world,” argued another smug male commenter.
“It’s not hard, they make it hard,” echoed an equally unsympathetic detractor.
“I was a stay-at-home dad for five years with three kids. Easiest job I ever had,” bragged another man. “Cooked, cleaned, did laundry, changed sheets weekly, went hiking, beach days, sidewalk chalk, diapers, music anytime I wanted — it was like vacation every day.”
Some stay-at-home mothers even chimed in, leaving comments like, “Literally it’s only a burden if you DON’T want to be a SAHM,” and “Yes, as a SAHM of five, almost six kids… it’s not hard at all.”
Bolstered by that support, the online critics doubled down.
“It isn’t difficult. They just love to play the victim,” one wrote.
“It’s easy, but no one wants to admit that because it makes them feel like they’re doing less,” added another. “It’s still very, very important work, but they’re upselling it.”
